PDA, Taboo?
June 28, 2007 at 8:12 pm | In "Theory of pursuit", Moi | 8 CommentsI have written in past about my discomfort towards physicality in social life and also public display of affection. This topic was almost out of my mind, until a recent article in a leading daily of Bangalore. Not many people are aware of the term PDA, they have not heard about it nor really concerned about the same. The worst part of this whole episode was my dad asking me what does PDA mean. Firstly I am embarrassed in general, now explaining what it means to my dad was totally out of question. I quietly escaped saying its a kind of a hand held mobile phone 
. Just in case, you guys think this is was a smart move, my father continued reading the article and found out what it means. Now came the fun part, he explaining to me what it really means.
Coming back to the article, it was about some schools in Bangalore banning PDA on their campus. Now the interesting part was, what they considered as PDA. Apparently the students of these schools are not supposed to kiss or hug in public, well this is partially acceptable to me, the worst thing was, they are not even supposed to hold hands. This I don’t agree.
I am from a conservative family and myself not so comfortable with the touch, but Is it wrong? Is it something which needs to be projected as taboo? I really don’t think so. Its normal human psychology for people to want to do stuff, which they are prohibited to do. By putting these restrictions, you are turning more people into rebel into doing stuff much more than holding hands. The feel of guilt you are creating in youngsters through these things towards something as simple as holding hands, can be irreparable.
Why cant people realize there is much more to a relationship between a boy and a girl than just sex. This tagging of love and sex to any relationship involving a boy and a girl is totally demeaning the gender relationship.
As I said already, I may not chose to hold hands, hug or kiss someone, even If I do, may not be in public, I may not be comfortable seeing other people do it too, But I don’t consider that wrong. As far as people who feel its wrong, it just shows me their immaturity in understanding human relationships, and a lot of dirt in the head.
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when I read the title even I thought PDA, the device!
Oops more you bar, more would one break the bar…moral policing in India is a real menace now.
Comment by Shreyasi Deb — June 29, 2007 #
PDA is total NO-NO IMO !! i dont understand the need for it in first place. I mean what one thinks about man/woman, girl/boy relationship is perceptual to oneself. but as a society we need to follow certain norms. We as part of the society need to follow them. Being forward is thoughts does not mean; its freedom to behave the way one wants w/o botherartion of other people around specially in public places.
Comment by Saaya — June 29, 2007 #
I agree that people should be given the freedom of choice- but u know sometimes some ppl get programmed into being told wat to do and wat not- in absence of such instructions they get into a frenzy of excesses- i personally know some ppl who always hv be to told things in a school-boyish mode
Comment by Moushumi — June 29, 2007 #
@Shreya
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[not sure I can call you that
I really dont mind the moral police, but I have a huge doubt about their definition of morality.
@Saaya.
Hmm I respect your opinion, But do you agree with their definition of PDA, is there no such thing called innocence among the school goers of present times.?
I agree that being forward does nto mean freewill, but shouldn’t we trust boys or girls anymore?
@moushumi.
thanks for bringing such a nice view, you are right, people have been spoon fed even values, giving them no freedom to develop there own. IMO you should not take away freedom, but provide enough knowledge to use the given freedom in a proper way.
Comment by Rambler — June 29, 2007 #
Personally, I don’t have a problem with the more minor PDA’s. Quick kisses, hugs, holding hands…that sort of thing. It’s just part of human nature to want that kind of physical contact with a loved one. I don’t think that those acts should be banned in schools…as long as they are tasteful. However, even here in the US, schools have bans against these things…not all schools make a big deal out of certain things…such as holding hands of giving quick hugs, but I can see that slowly schools are starting to put a stop to these things…it’s sad. And the saddest part…most of these rules over here come about because of law suits, or the fears of law suits.
Comment by ~*SilverNeurotic*~ — June 30, 2007 #
I just think they have nothing constructive to do, and waste time on these petty things, which end up creating bigger problems to the youth,
Comment by Rambler — June 30, 2007 #
Yep! I agree with you.
Bless You!
Comment by neilina — June 16, 2008 #
[...] For most part of the five hour journey, I was trying not to look front. It turned out that a middle aged couple in the front seat had come with a plan to educate me with their version of “In train” entertainment, PDA, just imagine having to see a coochie-coo-ing couple every time you lift your head from your book. Well if you think why it is that big a deal to me, you can check my thoughts over here. [...]
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