Monthly Archives: January 2007

Practicality N HIV


There was a big article about HIV patients in Bangalore Times of Times Of India yesterday. Not sure how many read that one. Basically it was about getting the partners tested for HIV AIDS before getting married, and also making AIDS test mandatory for certifying marriages.
This is not a simple topic, There are so many angles to this.

Firstly. If you think the advantages wise, It seems to be great, It may reduce the chances of women/men getting the disease when the partner acts as a Carrier. It might indirectly make people more careful about their life. More importantly It will prevent the their children from having it. But all said Is it really practical?

I cant Imagine how this can be implemented practically in Indian society. Considering most of the marriages in Indian are still arranged ones, how will the test results be exchanged, Will the horoscopes be sent along with an HIV detection test result?. So what if the tests are positive, Will they be allowed to marry only other people who also have tested positive?. What will be the expiry period of these results? so every month of the acquaintance till marriage will be a new result?. Ok now lets take the still minority number of so called “love” marriages. So when somebody actually sees a girl, Is he supposed to carry his test results around?. Or whenever he proposed along with the ring he will also have a certificate.
It sounds like sarcasms and also blown out a lot out of proportion, But believe me there is no easy way out. How practical this would be is a great question mark.
Lets forget about practicality, difficult but lets agree that this becomes a practice and its no longer a problem. Now emotionally also how taxing this will be. How people will start to judge person just looking at the results. Another biggest thing, what is the use of all this. If a relationship is based on a result, which can be correct or incorrect, how strong the relationship is going to be?. Is not the relationships supposed to be based on trust. If the trust is more on the lab technician who tests,than the partner, will that relationship be healthy?. So isn’t this a discrimination against HIV patients

All said and done, I am not against the proposal. But the problem is there are no wrong answers when it comes to questions like these.

"Lost in Transalation" The movie


Some movies impress you a lot, and some do not impress at all. There are few which have few
moments of greatness, And Sofia Coppola’s “Lost In Translation” is one such. It stars Scarlett Johansson and Bill Murray in the main lead.

Plot: Movie is about an old celebrity who comes to Japan to do some ad assignment, And In the
same hotel there is this young early 20 recently married girl Charlotte[SJ]. they both are at a position in life, where they dont know why they are unhappy, And story is how they help each other out.

Though the movie is a little boring to begin with there are 3 scenes which have best screenplay I have seen in long time.

1. When Bob meets Charlotte on the way to the pool. This is when they do not know each other
well. And Bob is on the way to pool and Charlotte is on her way back from the pool. The thing that struck me with this scene, Is the long pauses. In real life it is so common , to see long pauses when two people are trying to have a meaning full conversation for the first time. I have seen similar scenes before, but the pauses here are awkwardly long and too much close to the real.

2. This scene is when Bob, being aware that Charlotte cannot sleep at night, asks her to join him. They both are on the bed. He is watching the ceiling and she is curled up and facing him. The dialogues that follow are too good. She is asked a question “what does she do”. and the expressions on her face when she tries to find out what she really does, and her realization in the midway that she really does not have her own interests is too good. What stuck me about this scene was how good the screenplay writer must have written this scene. I mean just looking at the scene I am sure the guy would have planned everything including the actual position and orientation of the characters.

3. The scene near the end of the movie, Where Bob calls up Charlotte to tell her, that he wants her to written the coat which she has stolen. And by the time she comes down, he is forced to pose for a photograph and smile, On one side he sees here going away and on the other he is forced to smile. I dont know much about this actor, But he deserves accolades for his expression here.

look out for:
Scarlet Johansson, she is simple yet gorgeous, and has emoted extremely well

let downs: certain shots forced into the movie because of commercial appeal. That too the opening shot with Scarlett’s butt, Is unnecessary, not sure what director wanted to prove here.

Too slow moving story in the beginning and some unwanted side tracks with an actress and
Charlotte’s husband.



Its nice to be able to force your will on others, I mean in a nice way.
After a long time when you force your friend to do something, and that person agrees, It makes you realize you still haven’t lost it. If that thing works out or not does not matter.
These little things does bring a smile on the face.

Does this become my shortest post?

Had to edit this a little, Not sure if it was explanatory enough.
The whole idea here was, You think you are close to someone, and you do anything they want you to, similarly they would do anything you want them to. But after a while, Its tough to determine how close you still are, And there are small things like this which makes you realize, you have not lost what you had some time back. And that can bring smile on anyones face.



Its always nice to know what you are. But do we really know what we are?, I am not so sure.
So what would you say, If some one asks you to Identify yourself, What I mean here is, How would you Identify yourself.
Name is the last thing I want to be my Identity. What have I done or what I have achieved which can be stated as an identity. Its a tough one to think about.
Does my profession become my Identity. No, I am not a Bill Gates to make my profession Identify me.
Does my academics Identify me, No again, I am not some Einstein here where my inventions speak for me.
Does the wealth Identify me, No not even close, I am not a multimillionaire for money to become identity
Does my behaviour, values and religion identify me, I don’t consider myself extra ordinary in those fields either.
So what it that, that identifies me? This ones a toughie
So does this mean I am going through an identity crisis, hell No.
So does this mean mediocre person do not have a strong identity? Well not so sure here. I feel yes they don’t and some times no they do.

Problem here seams to be the approach I have used to Identify myself. One should never be identified by comparison. Each one will have his/her own Identity, When you try to establish this in comparison with others, a stronger quality of one person might overshadow the subtle differences. So let me re look at the Identity

I am hard working and I have enough courage and ability to adopt to any profession, Does this identify me?
I was good enough to recognise importance of academics, and also the fact that never I should repent in life that I did not take my academics seriously, Does this Identify me?
I tried to innovate and make my job easier both at work and in day to day life. Does this Identify me?
I make enough money, to realize its importance, and thus more importantly knowing how to spend it, Does this Identify me?
I have developed strong values, and make sure my behaviour is not affected by circumstances and outcome, Does this Identify me?

I think it does. It might not distinguish me, but surely Identifies me. Here “Me” could be anybody. So the whole problem seems to be due to lack of knowledge about difference between Identity and Differentiators.

Mixed Bag


Oscar Wilde once said “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
some people are passionate in what they do, and definitely its good thing, but some people like me, are too much passionate, is that good?.
Recently I came across a questionnaire which asked me, Do you get too much involved in the book you read, movie you watch ? The answer in my case is yes. This is not something new, I have been passionate in what ever I do from beginning. Both likes and dislikes have been with more passion.
So may be readers can judge, is it good or bad?….

Anyways as far as getting involved in books and movies, these are some of the things I came across recently in various media, which really blew my mind…

At this moment, there are six billion,
four hundred seventy million,
eight hundred eighteen thousand,
six hundred seventy one people in the world.
Some… are running scared.
Some… are coming home.
Some tell lies to make it through the day.
Others are just not facing the truth.
Some are evil men, at war with good.
And some are good, struggling with evil.
Six billion people in the world
six billion souls.
And sometimes…
All you need is one.

Alexander pope:
How happy is the blameless vestal’s lot!
The world forgetting, by the world forgot.
Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind!
Each pray’r accepted, and each wish resign’d;
Human NatureThe Science of Sleep

Think one of the most universal human experiences is feeling alone. You’d never know it, but there’s most likely tons of people feeling the exact same way.Maybe because you’re feeling abandoned.Maybe because you realize that you aren’t as self-sufficient as you thought.Maybe because you know you should’ve handled something differently.Or maybe because you aren’t as good as you thought you were. Either way, when you hit that low point, you have a choice. You can either wallow in self-pity……Or you can suck it up. It’s your call



Something strange happened this sunday.
I was watching “Pyar ke side effects” with my dad, and After watching for about half an hour, I got bored and went back to my room. And then he said it, “I think you should get married”. I never imagined him saying this, that too so soon. I was speechless, I just kind of changed the subject.
More than answering his question, the one thing that stuck me was what would I tell If he asks me seriously, I do not have any answer and definitely no reason for saying no.
Just hoping he does not ask me again for atleast next 2 years.