On my way back from work today, I was wondering what do I do normally do when I meet people who are dear to me, shake hands?, smile?, do a namasthe[pressing both palms together]?, touch the feet as a mark of respect?, or just a simple hug?. Actually I was surprised myself, that I don’t do any of those, may be smile some times, mostly its just a couple of words inquiring how they are doing thats all, I never do any of the other things instinctively.
Its been our custom from long time to touch elders feet when you meet them, its a mark of respect for their experience, their age and their knowledge, elders are always superior to you and hence they should command respect. I totally agree with this concept, but then somehow its never been in practice with me, I do touch elders feet, but not instinctively, its only if the occasion demands it or someone asks me to. I don’t believe I am doing that because I want, rather I am doing it because I have to.
Shaking hands too is not a common practice, unless its really formal, I do not find shaking hands personal, and I kind of feel it makes the relationship too formal, If I shake hands with you when I meet you, you can be totally sure that I do not have any personal interest in you, its just pure formality.
Coming to doing namasthe, I think somewhere over the years this act of showing respect has just survived for the super power GOD, I do not see many people doing this, atleast not with their hands anymore. Being in this generation, its natural that I haven’t developed this one either.
That leaves me with “Hug”, so do I hug people often?, the answer is NO, I cannot get myself to hug someone comfortably. If you look at India as a whole, I feel Northern parts have practice of hugging when they meet dear ones, I think its pretty common there, as you come towards the south there is not much of hugging, Even If you take out of India, I do believe that the west and the east have this practice of greeting with a hug.
I was trying to find out what could be the reason, that I can’t get myself to hug people, the first reason that strikes me is that I never am comfortable with human touch, but then not just with opposite gender, even with my male friends, I am not so comfortable hugging, I almost can count the number of times I have hugged someone, it might be like 1/2 to 1.
There are few things which are beyond explanation, beyond logic, to me as of now, discomfort with hugging is one such.
Lately I see more people hugging their dear ones, both in same gender, and in some cases opposite gender too.
So what about you guys, how do you greet your dear ones, Do you have problems with hugs too. Really curios to know.