Paulo Said "The Zahir" and I….

As you guys know I was reading Paulo Coelho’s “The Zahir“, and as usual am ready with my report on the book, this time around I thought it would be nice to write about what I read and what I thought, I mean what went through my mind when I went trough some wonderful passages in the book, so not sure if it is fun to read but then this is what I thought when I read the book.

“What a ridiculous thought!, many of the people I pass must also have their soul in tatters and I have no idea how or why they are suffering“.

Forget about the people we pass, think of people we know, think of people who are your parents, your friends, your enemies, or even for that matter someone who cared enough to just say hi to you, do we know if they are suffering, do we want to know, do we make an effort, should we make an effort?, I so much feel that we should, who else will if humans with heart to think don’t.?

“What is fidelity?, The feeling that I possess a body and soul that aren’t mine“.

Fidelity is one of those topics, which is hard to define, does fidelity mean monogamy?, oh wrong choice of words, monogamy itself is not well defined with people, nope I don’t believe its just got to do with sharing your body with just one person, it has to be more than that, I do want to believe when in a relationship,when you no longer consider yourself as one entity its infidelity, when you begin to think for yourself, when you let your mind wander over the things that benefits of you alone, rather than both of you, who should, by now become “Collective you”, it is infidelity, Fidelity, should be more or less a feeling of togetherness which as much applies to your mind as to the body.

“It’s not the life that matters, but the journey“
So who does define our journey, who decides our co passengers and how we come up with the next step, the real secret called life, of course is a journey and the both do matter. I think I did write on that topic here “The Journey.“

“We are all growing and changing shape, we notice certain weaknesses that need to be corrected, we don’t always choose the best solution, we carry on regardless, trying to remain upright and decent, in order to do honor, not to the walls or the doors or the windows, but to the empty space inside, the space were we worship and venerate what is dearest and most important to us.“

I have always believed that natural is beautiful, no I am not talking about plastic surgery, I am saying accepting real things which invariably will have faults, and perfection is illusional, accepting people the way they are, and accepting the self too with all the issues, is something which is very important in life, It does not mean don’t try to improve, but it also means be tolerance to reality.

“Love is an untamed force, when we try to control it, it destroys us, when we try to imprison it, it enslaves us, when we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused“

To be honest I have no idea, I don’t know how it feels, am sure will some day. But just felt the quote needs to be remembered, by all people who are/were/will be in the L word.

“No one should ever ask themselves that: why am I unhappy? The question carries within it th e virus that will destroy everything. If we ask that question, it means we want to find out what makes us happy. If what makes us happy is different from what we have now, then we must either change once and for all or stay as we are, feeling even more unhappy“

On a sober day I would have totally agreed with Paulo, but unfortunately I am high, nope I am not drunk, but high on life, and high on happiness, so I would like to believe it is false, it is absolutely necessary to ask ourselves the question whats making us unhappy and try to change if we already don’t have things that makes us happy. I know its difficult, but I have got some really good results when I have tried to make myself happy.

“In failed marriage, when one person stops walking, the other is forced to do the same, And while he or she is waiting, other lovers appear,pr there is charitable work to get involved in, there are the children to worry about, there are long hours of work, It would be much easier to talk openly about things, to insist, to yell“

Again a topic which I don’t have much idea, but does it stop me from thinking about it or developing a perspective nope :). I guess its absolutely necessary to keep a marriage alive till it dies, just like the author’s hypothetical epitaph. Its necessary that we don’t resent the downs, at the same time enjoy the ups as well, and as the author get the things out in the open. I have had some really bad experiences when I have chosen to be honest in what I speak, even though those have been disasters, they are things I have accepted the way they are, and am a satisfied person for doing that, and satisfied person for not being somebody which I am not with those people. I have had bitter arguments, and some have never got back to me, and some did realize I was honest and have come back.

“There is nothing worse than the feeling that no one cares whether we exist or not, that no one is interested in what we have to say about life, and that the world can continue turning without our awkward presence“
What do I say about this, I have written so much about caring..

The Epitaph Paulo choose for himself

“He died while he was still alive“

Only a writer of his caliber can come up with such a profound epitaph, we got to be alive till we die, it sounds an silly idiotic statement, but no its not easy.
It made me wonder even though we never have epitaphs in Hindu religion, nor do I need to think about it for a long time, hopefully :), but still what would mine be, hypothetically if someone asks..
I guess it should be somewhere on the lines of

“He chose his life“,
sounds selfish? may be, its more how important it is to chose to live and once you do that, also choose what should be your life.