The topic over at skittles this week for heads or tails is “Three”. I really thought long and hard on this topic, I absolutely was drawing a blank mind every time I tried to think something, Finally I thought of three things I am proud to have learnt from my parents and those which I would be proud to pass on, when I become one.
Coming from a middle class family, growing up was not so easy for both myself and my parents, its really tough you know with the increasing prices, over expensive education, books, clothes, entertainment, and so on. The best thing my parents thought me was to value money. Its always good to have some in your pocket, and wait the right time to spend, rather not have them, and wait for the right time to make some. When someone works hard from morning to evening to earn the salary at the end of the month, it is really difficult to see someone else spend the same easily over silly things. It is very easy to fall into the trap of saying Yes to anything your kid wants, but then it really takes lot of courage to say no, and make the kid understand patiently why we don’t need that thing right now. I am glad that my parents thought me the importance of spending the right amount of money and on the right things.
Growing up, I have seen many small arguments between my parents, but then they always ended with one person letting the other win, a small compromise being made by one of them. I know its easy to say “life should not be a compromise”, but then when you stay together, and share a life, it becomes extremely difficult to accommodate one another, more importantly accommodate each other’s ideas. Thats where the compromise kicks in, you need to come up with a win-win solution all the time. Adjusting to each other is something which I have learnt from my parents. I think for all us hot headed youngsters, who still have lot of ego, and a little proud-ness that we are right, we got to understand when it comes to a relationship there is no “one” who is right, its always the couple who are right.
I think all parents have this unconditional caring and support towards their kids, I don’t want to call it blind love, because no its not, they do take care to correct their kids when they are wrong. But whenever the kid is a little low of confidence, or uncertain the parents are always there to help. I think this is a great quality to develop, ability to support anyone unconditionally, be there for them always, care for them always, make sure you care what they have to say, or what they ask from you. I think this is not just for kids, we ought to develop this towards as many people as possible. To do that Trust is really important, and thats what I learnt from my parents. Ability to trust someone, to be sure to take that little calculated risk and give the others a chance to prove themselves.