Today’s topic over at skittles for “Heads or Tails” is anything that starts with the letter “C”. and I chose copycats.
Whenever people spot a new born kid, I guess the first reaction in most cases, is he/she looks just like her father, or mother, or grand parent, or like her aunt, or like the neighbor… oops last one just slipped in :).. Anyways the point was that, people do try to match the features of the kid to one of the relatives. In most of the cases it does turn out resembling someone in the family. Even today when people meet my father after knowing me for a long time, they comment “Now we know how you are gonna look when you are old”. Guess somewhere, whether you want or not, “creator” does leave some similarities.
Kids growing up always try to ape parents. Anything the parents eat, they want to taste too. The words they speak too, is very much what parents use. Sometimes the mannerisms are copied so nicely, like the style of walking, I have seen so many kids walking the way their parents do, like folding their hands when they walk, or swaying the way their parents do. The best time to catch them copying someone is when they are playing, they always pretend to be their teacher trying to teach what all they have been taught that day to an imaginary student, or when a girl kid tries to play house, the cooking style is exactly like her mother, or when a guy kid tries to drive an imaginary car, just try to observe the way they move their legs and hands, it would be exactly like their parents.
When kids grow up a little, I guess they try to copy their siblings a lot, girls want to do the same thing as their sisters, like their sibling’s choice in clothes. Guys on the other hand, want to learn the exact same sport as their brothers. Its fun stage I guess, where older siblings are always annoyed with the younger copycats. I am sure every one would have tried to copy the hair style of a sibling, or have fought with parents to get the exact same things as the other sibling.
As teenagers, friends and celebrities become a big inspiration, The attitude is more like, if he/she can do, why not I. The sales people have it very easy with teens, if one kid at school buys it, its almost sure that he/she would be followed by lots and lots of others. Same with celebrities too, late teens are I guess wanting to copy their favorite stars, their hairstyle, fashion, and even attitude. I still remember when the movie Aashiqui was released, and every one in our school was sporting Rahul Roy’s hairstyle and the heroines kind of a hair accessory. Again a fun age to watch the copy cats.
As people become adults, the copy happens more subtly. I mean most of the time we wont even know we are copying. Let my cite an example, when I was in the states alone, for the first time in my life, I was cooking everyday. I mean I had cooked before, but not like a daily routine stuff. I reached there on a weekend, and I didn’t realize the burden of cooking when I had pretty much nothing else to do. The first working week, I realized the time crunch in the morning when I had to cook before I go to office, in the evening as I was watching TV, I saw what vegetables were there in the refrigerator, and I planned what I wanted to cook the next day, and cut them accordingly and placed them in the refrigerator. Next day morning, I woke up, put them in a cooker, placed that on the stove and took my bath as the food was getting ready. and my cooking was done within just 15 minutes extra time. And suddenly it stuck me, I was doing exact same thing what my mom does back in Bangalore. She follows the same routine, watching her 24 years do the same stuff everyday had me copy her even without realizing I was doing it.
I guess as adults the decisions we take and the actions we do, are so much of a replica of people we have seen in the past, we would know exactly so and so would have reacted in the situation. Whenever I am planning my finances, I know I unknowingly follow the way my father would deal with it.
I know its not good to follow, its not good to copy, one has to be the “leader”. All said and done we do copy, we do follow, don’t we?