It’s not all about change


She never stopped,
She wanted to know it all,
She wanted all the details,
She always had questions.

If you can’t change “a” person,
would you change “the” person?

He never planned,
He lived in his own world,
He never liked being told,
He almost never listened.

If you can’t change “a” person,
would you change “the” person?

Money was never his concern,
All he cared was about happiness.
She wanted to be happy, no doubt
but she knew the importance of money.

If you can’t change “a” person,
would you change “the” person?


The prompt this week over at writerโ€™s island is “Change”. Catch the rest of the posts by clicking on the badge below.



24 responses »

  1. An interesting take on ‘change’. I know people like the ones in the poem and I also see aspects of myself.

    Thanks watermaid, This was keeping in mind, someone I know very well, but looks like many people identified with the aspects.

  2. Changing ‘the’ person is quite a challenge. You handled the prompt very well.

    Anthony, I think you meant changing a person, changing the person on other hand should be very easy, or is it?

  3. sometimes… changing “the” person is all that can happen, but then the same person keeps popping out in them, over and over again… a mystery… great post ๐Ÿ™‚

    Glad you could see what I was trying to say, sometimes changing the person is all we end up doing, but then it is not good for both ourself and for the person if you end up changing who he/she is.

  4. Hmmm. Sounds like a typical match to me. But, I’ve got to admit, I don’t understand the difference you’re proposing between “a person,” and “the person.” Your other readers seem to, so maybe I’m being my usual obtuse self, sorry. Thanks for stopping by my place.

    Richard, what I meant was should we change a person from who or what he is, or instead just go for another person

  5. I wonder what happens when he and she gets together…nice one here.

    UL, actually he and she are together, and looks like they neither got to change the person nor change each other..

  6. Interesting concept, in a relationship one person wants to change the other person to think the way they want them to. If the other person doesn’t want to change, the first person is left with no alternative but to change (swap) that person for someone else. So, the answer must be Yes!

    Its not so easy, or that Is what I felt, just changing the person may not be the answer.

  7. do u think change is really really reqd?

    i mean to say.. this is scary ! I m not sure if I m capable of a change.. so do u think I should just stop imagining myself having a good partner and a relationship?

    I know at the end of the day we want u to work on this aspect ..etc…but change?

    i might not know.. i have not been there.. and all this is not verr encouraging u see ๐Ÿ™‚

    Veens, as the title said, its not always about change.. what I meant to say is when posed with such challenge, change may not be the answer.
    Well one this is that I have never been there too, this is all imagination of rambler, just his ramblings ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Even when we do not realise, we are changing at every instance. Our thinking changes with age. Our priorities change with time.

    I like the repeat lines..

    Gautami, They do change, but a conscious effort might spoil it for us

  9. nice one, rambler…life is all about change…I’m sure everyone changes in some way over the years…

    hmm what happens when the he and she get together…?

    TA, wish I could tell you what happened, all I can reveal is that “Change” did not happen ๐Ÿ˜€

  10. I would nt claim i have understood it completely. but change is always difficult and restless unless and until you really want it to happen. ๐Ÿ™‚

    btw need a help from you ..check my blog

    May be some of my replies to others would give some idea, actually it was not about having to change neither yourself, nor the person, still enjoying something which can be made lovely

  11. That’s the problem, isn’t it? If a person won’t change do you give them the flick and try another? Sometimes compromise on both sides is the best solution. Great interpretation of prompt.

    I do not think compromise can be an answer, however understanding can be one ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. well have written about somewhat the same thing in one of my posts…and would still stick by it…
    if the person is important enough, u wouldent want to change him but would love him for what he is…and it works both ways…
    and then again, can a person really change?? i mean maybe ..but would he really be comfortable not being himself?
    again that is subjective…
    but i feel that its okay to expect some changes in the people who matter to u…but dont be dissapointed if they dont turn out the way u want them to…
    love them anyways ๐Ÿ™‚

    I do not think I will change for someone, again I never thought I will change for myself, but I have..

  13. Beautiful poem, especially the aliteration part!
    And “the person” open to interpretation of course,
    would that be changing yourself or your partner…Nice way to put it across

    Absolutely, it was meant that way, the person could be you, or the person. changing who they are, or trying a new person altogether.

  14. thinking about it.. neither changing ‘a’ person or ‘the’ person sounds good. why should we change anybody ?? and convert them into our own reflection?? very nicely writtn ๐Ÿ™‚

    SSNAB, Sometimes change is good, but not all times change is the answer ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. Perhaps sometimes you discover that changing *the* person is too drastic a move, that what looked like a Big Problem turns out to be a minor bump in the road.

    Robin,exactly but where do we draw the line ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. Good thoughts! a lot of information packed into that little verse…too many people try to change ‘a’ instead of accepting the noncompatibility and changing ‘the’

    Just Jen, I guess both are not needed for always

  17. change is always good, but changing THE person seems drastic… what about a change to forgiveness?
    this was a great poem and very thought inspiring. I think it’s my first time visiting you, looking forward to coming aagain! :))

    Lucy, welcome to virtual ramblings, hope to see you around soon

  18. no..chnage is not alwys required. a bit of commitmnt, compromises are needed. it’s blending the differences.

    the poem is lovely and thoughtful too. a very well handled prompt that to in a very unique way. kp it up.

    tk cr ๐Ÿ™‚

    Preetilata, compromise now thats a big word :)..

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