Monthly Archives: January 2010

Life on either side

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When time tries to close the door to the past, and our beloved become doorkeepers who shut them from sliding ajar, they forget that there exists no lid which can fasten memories.  Life exists on either sides of the door, and emotions live, though, not shared.

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A tale of seats

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I use my work transport to get to work everyday, I have always loved to use it. Not because I am big supporter of cause like global warning, or conservation of fuels, even though I believe in all that, I am one of those useless average Indian who cribs about all the issues, and does not really take any steps to actually do something about them. I use the transport mainly because I hate driving, I have never liked it, and I don’t know how to drive my car.

Anyways, coming back to the topic, I take my transport provided by my work place to get to work. I am one of the last ones to be picked up and first ones to be dropped off. [Yes, I know I am fortunate, and I thank my stars everyday for it]. The bus I take is not a crowded route, so the bus is almost empty most of the days. Usually when I get into the bus there are  plenty of  choices of seats for me to choose from, and its the same picture every single day. The first day I ever rode that bus,  I had to choose my seat. So what do I do?, I go and choose the least preferred seat, the one on top of the wheel. Its a known fact that its gonna bounce a lot if I sit there.

I walk in the next day, I have a lot of choices, but this time around, I walk directly to the seat I took the previous day, as though its my designated seat, and the pattern continued. I always go and occupy the same seat, even when the bus is empty and I have a seat right in the front, I just go and sit in that seat. For no reason it has become ‘my’ seat.

One day I went in to find my seat taken, I developed an instant hatred towards the person who had taken up my seat, not that I didnt have other seats for me, but they are not ‘my’ seat. I must have looked up like every 10 minutes, knowing for sure the seat will not become empty, but still I looked at the person like 100 times and cursed him for taking up my seat.

This made me realize how much possessive I can become in the name of attachment.

I guess there are three kinds of people,

a. People who choose the same seat every single day

b. People who make sure they find a new seat every day, and try to experience novelty in the seats

c. People who dont really care about this, and just want to find a seat to sit.

Even people who belong to category a, have different levels of possessiveness, some might just feel bad that the seat is taken and curse the person once, and others like me might be so possessive that they curse the person every few minutes.

On second thought its not really possessiveness, I think its more to do with our routine being broken. Its as though we want life to become a routine, we want smaller aspects in life to follow a pattern, and for some reason when the pattern is broken, we don’t like the change, we don’t like the idea of having to do something out of the norm.  Why does our mind like ‘known’ so much, what is it that we fear about the ‘unknown’, How much of a problem a new seat can cause me?.

When I am so icky of the new seat, I can’t even imagine how I am gonna take the break in my routine when bubbles is going to walk into my life fully

A new step

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Its time to update my social networking websites, I checked my facebook profile, clicked the edit part and was looking at a drop down menu. I was wondering if the relationship status on the page had something like “I don’t know what the hell I am doing”. It turns out that its time for me to change, yep you heard it right, Rambler is getting hitched soon.

Even before I could breathe the freshly polluted air of my home town, I was sitting in front of a girl who I had been talking to for some time now, and before I even got to try my favorite dosa joint in town [Which is like just 10 mnts walk from my place, and am yet to do it], I was being asked to say what’s my decision. Not that I took a long time, but still. The idea of saying yes, and the amount of changes it would bring into my life, kind of scared me. Ah how easy it was to go buy a pair of jeans, use it for a week, feel not so good about it, and go return to the store, and here I was making probably one of the biggest decisions in my life, and knowing for sure, if I screw up once I am gonna be in middle of nowhere for rest of my life.

Rambler decided to do what he does best when he has to make an important decision, Flip his favorite coin. Just kidding.. :). After some rounds of thinking, and more rounds of talking, it was decided that it’s going to be ‘bubbles’ who is going to be the wifey to be.

Rambler now discovers why people spend so much of time on phone once they get hitched. Probably its the time I use up all my saved minutes, and probably borrow some from future. I have never talked on phone so much before, of course apart from the work calls. Its been an eventful 15 days of my life.

As Rambler makes his new steps, I am sure he is gonna slip here and there, and walk, crawl, scrape through into his new role, he welcomes ‘bubbles’ into his world of virtual ramblings.

Box of secrets

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I guess, we humans are good in keeping secrets, rather good in keeping things a secret. We go through so many things in life, thoughts, emotions, feelings, urges, resolutions, problems, and so on..and how many of these do we keep to ourselves, In most of use the answer would be ‘many’. Is this ‘keeping to self’ the thing which makes stuff personal?.
When I look back, there have been things which have been so important to me, things which have given me immense happiness, things which I thought would never happen to me, people whom I think I would never meet, nothing more significant than something which I got to experience in recent times. When you are faced with such a significant event, what would a normal person do?, go share it with friends, or family, or with every damn person on this earth?. Or may be if he/she is a big blogger fan, may be post a bunch of posts on it, or atleast one post in excitement to share it with the anonymous blog world.

Rambler decided to keep it to himself, not talk about it to anyone, nor even his close friends, not even his blog. A place which he thought was for such thoughts he couldnt share with people in real life. Thats when Rambler realized how the blog has lost its purpose, anyways thats a different topic altogether.

Coming back to the closed box of secret,  There has been a number of times things have come to tip of my tongue, to share with few people close to me, my friends, my blog friends, my family, nothing really forced it out of me. Somewhere I didn’t get the feeling to share it. This of all the things terrifies me, it kind of shows that I am running out of people whom I want to share things with, specially things which are of significance, and experiences which redefines me as an individual.

On the other hand, what happens to such hidden emotions and feelings, and such periods of one’s life, would we ever share it with people? would we just bottle it put a cork on it and set it afloat in an ocean thinking someone might open it?, or would we regret one day, for not sharing it with people you care.

I am not sure if the post makes any sense, nor if it has any significance to a person who reads it. As of today I think the bottle is safely stored in my mind’s closet, sometimes right in the front, and sometimes hidden behind the memories.