“How can we form new memories, if all we do is, create whatsapp groups and message memories from the past?. ” asked one of my cousins. It did not make much sense to me the day he mentioned this, however today as I came across one of the lines in a book I was reading, kind of reminded me the true nature of that question. The line read “We become insiders to the past, and outsiders to the present”. We love to be insiders, period. I guess if we feel at home in the past, it is natural that we love being in it, as we are true insiders there.
Many of us are coasters, and we love to drift along with time. The expectation is that, time will create circumstances, make us meet people, create opportunities for building memories. It is not like we put in effort to create the old ones, why do I need to do it now?. The above argument has made perfect sense to me for long. I guess time does create all of this, but may be not necessarily in a way you would enjoy, not necessarily in a way you would cherish at a later time. If you believe in quantity, I guess time will not disappoint.
I want to believe age is holding us back, lack of time is holding us back, but sadly it is probably our closed mind. I guess, I need to unblock myself. I need to put in some effort. Here is a list of things I came up with, as note to myself.
- When you meet people whom you are comfortable with [Read people from your past], stop remembering older days, meet at a newer setting, and think of newer topics and activities.
- When presented with a new social event, prioritize if it involves new people, or a new activity.
- Think of at least one activity every weekend which you have been wanting to do in a long time, and do it.
- Reconnect with people from various parts of the world whom you have lost touch with, and check what they are up to.
- Listen to what your kids say or want to do, they will always surprise you.
- Travel alone at least once a year. You will invariable make new friends.
I would love to hear some tips from people out there in the blog world.