I was intrigued by this dialogue in one of the movies that I was watching, “If you were to describe all men with one statement what would that be?” Asks a man. “They all are insecure” answers his wife. I don’t know if the ‘man’ in question was meant to mean people irrespective of gender, I don’t know if it is true with women too, however I think It is true, many men are insecure. I have been insecure most of my life.
Will my hair last till I am 25?
Will I look old in my own wedding?
Will I have enough money when I am about to retire so that I don’t have to depend on anyone?.
Will I have my job for as long as I want to work?.
Will my son grow up to be independent and self sufficient?.
Will I be healthy till I die?.
Will my house last my lifetime?.
Am I satisfying my wife?.
Does she really love me with all her heart?.
Will I be able to eat what I want for the rest of my life?.
Will I be able to afford my healthcare if and when I need it?.
Will my son take care of me?.
I just had to think for a minute, and I could list so many of my insecurities. For as long as I can remember, I have been insecure.
Are we insecure because we are not confident?, I am not so sure. I have been very confident in many of these aspects, but still it does not drive the insecurity away.
How do we fight insecurity?
Be more practical? Be more ignorant?,
Work harder? Take it light?
Step back look at the big picture? Zoom in and take a closer look?
Be philosophical? Be nonchalant?
Listen to your heart? Listen to what the world has to say?
We don’t see a definite plan of action, do we?
Men from different classes of life, different educational backgrounds, social backgrounds, religion, country and race seem to have one thing in common.